It’s a familiar scenario for many: the moment you start standing up for yourself, setting boundaries, and stopping people from disrespecting or taking advantage of you, labels get thrown your way. Suddenly, you’re “difficult,” “crazy,” or “selfish.” But here’s the thing—be as difficult, crazy, and selfish as you need to be. Why? Because manipulation absolutely despises boundaries.
Let’s talk about relationships, especially the romantic kind. The truth is, not having a man is infinitely better than having just a piece of one. If he isn’t able or willing to give you his full attention, you’re better off single. You can’t force someone to be loyal, but you absolutely can protect your peace. And that starts with recognizing your worth and refusing to settle for half-hearted commitments.
The more chances you give someone, the less respect they’ll have for you. They begin to ignore the standards you’ve set, confident that no matter what they do, another chance will always be waiting. This cycle diminishes your worth and erodes your respect for yourself. It’s a hard truth, but they aren’t afraid to lose you because they’re comfortable in the knowledge that you won’t walk away. They depend on your forgiveness, getting cozy with the idea that they can disrespect you without any real consequences.
It’s essential to break this cycle. Never let anyone get comfortable disrespecting you. I’m not single because I can’t find someone to be with. I’m single because every time I try focusing on someone, they show me exactly why I am better off alone. This isn’t about being lonely—it’s about being strong enough to say no to relationships that don’t fully value what I bring to the table.
Protecting your peace isn’t selfish; it’s necessary. It means prioritizing your mental and emotional well-being and refusing to let anyone disturb that balance. It means understanding that being alone will never be as damaging as being in a relationship that constantly takes more than it gives.
So the next time someone calls you difficult for refusing to tolerate less than you deserve, wear that label with pride. It’s a sign that you’re doing something right: you’re living life on your terms, respecting yourself, and setting the standard for how others should treat you. And remember, it’s not about being difficult—it’s about being uncompromising when it comes to your self-respect.
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